How Can I Help You?
Well, I'm pretty obsessed with relationships.
Whether it's your relationship with your significant other, family member, friend, coworker...even yourself...
The quality of your relationships determine the quality of your life.
But as valuable as relationships are, we don't give them the time and energy they deserve. Especially romantic relationships. In our culture, they very quickly take a back seat to our jobs, kids, Candy Crush...you name it.
Next thing you know, you're living like roommates and wondering if this is all there is.
Because this is such a common occurrence, I've made it my mission in life to help repair and strengthen relationships, by any means necessary. Sorry that sounded scary. I mean whether that's through individual/couples counseling, groups, workshops, blogs, etc.
I see all kinds of people, but the kinds of clients I have the greatest success working with are motivated to improve their situation and willing to work their butts off to reach their goals. They are not expecting “quick fixes” or looking for me to magically change them or their partner. They have the courage to take an honest look at themselves (as uncomfortable as it might be) in an effort to live more intentional lives.
Clients I've worked with tend to appreciate my “loving confrontation," my sense of humor, and my active, hands-on approach. There is nothing wrong with a more passive, smile-and-nod therapist- that may be exactly what you need right now. But that's not my style.
Although I appreciate the value of insight when it comes to change, I tend to place a larger emphasis on direct feedback, education, and positive change. I don't expect my clients to come to their own conclusions or figure out for themselves what to do differently. That can be very time-consuming and when we're struggling (especially when relationship issues are involved) time is not on our side. If I know that I have feedback or a recommendation that I know will have a positive effect, I will offer it to you.
I’m especially interested in working with individuals who put everyone before themselves, men struggling with emotional intimacy, premarital and newlywed couples, and couples who are feeling emotionally distant from their partners.
I graduated from the University of Miami (go Canes!) with a Bachelors degree in Psychology. I've been a Marriage and Family Therapist since 2012, after graduating with my Masters from the University of Rochester School of Medicine and Dentistry. I completed my clinical training at Strong Family Therapy Services and Strong Behavioral Health at Highland Family Medicine. I chose to go into an MFT program because I didn’t want to be a generalist, I knew I wanted to specialize in working with families and couples, and this is exactly what this program prepared me for.
But MFTs aren't just specialists when it comes to relationship issues, we're also trained to provide individual psychotherapy for all kinds of problems (trauma, depression, grief, substance abuse, etc). The difference between us and other mental health professionals is that we (primarily) understand behavior in the context of one's relationships. Want more info about why MFTs are great? Click here.
I worked 3 years at a Rochester Regional Health System community mental health center as a therapist in the adult clinic.
I started my private practice online, working with a counseling platform called Talkspace. I now continue to work with Talkspace as a Consultation Therapist in addition to my local and online private practice.
I am a Clinical Fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT).
Whatever your problems are, I know that you are much more than just your problems. You have a unique story to tell and I'm interested in learning about it.
Because of your wonderful uniqueness, I don't believe that there's a "one-size-fits-all" approach. That's unreasonable to expect when people are so complex.
With that being said, I am a big supporter of evidence-based therapy. I love science and research, so I make an effort to incorporate research-driven approaches when appropriate. Here are some of the approaches that inform my practice:
Gottman Method Couples Therapy
Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy
Relational Life Therapy
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
I was born in Buenos Aires, Argentina and raised in the US by Argentinean parents. My grandparents were immigrants to Argentina from Italy, hence the Italian last name. I speak Spanish and sarcasm fluently.
I moved several times growing up, which wasn't ideal at the time, but now looking back I can't begin to describe how invaluable these experiences have been for me, both personally and professionally. I love that I have had the opportunity to experience so many different cities/countries, cultures, people. It has informed my perspective on people and relationships in a way that no book or training program ever could.
I am happily married and we have 2 rescue dogs that are like my children- Otis (far left) and Ariel (right). Otis is a bundle of energy who loves sprinting at the dog park, while Ariel would much rather cuddle up on the couch with a hot cup of tea and a good book.
I suffer from extreme hanger (hunger+anger). It's not pretty, so I try to always make sure I have some kind of snack on me.
I have an irrational fear of sloths. I don't have any sloth-induced trauma or anything, so I'm not sure where it originated, but they just creep me out. Thankfully, they're easy to avoid in Western New York.